Oh hey! It’s your boy Paul Fishman, Self Love Coach and You Do You, activist, here to drop some knowledge on why jumping straight into a life of yes might be the worst thing you could do for yourself. Especially if you aren’t doing this one thing first. Are you ready? Ok. Me too!
Don’t get me wrong, saying yes to adventure and magic in your life is probably one of the most liberating things you could ever do. Imagine following your dreams, fighting for what you genuinely want and making your life one of greatness! I mean, that sounds pretty amazing, don’t you think?
Let me paint a picture for you. Let’s say you’ve always wanted to say yes to your own business. You’re sick and tired of having to wake up, go to work and build someone else’s dreams. Day in and day out you loathe going into the office, you feel like a slave to your boss, your bills and the life you’ve created… sound familiar? I definitely resonate a lot with this picture, in fact, it was a life I lived until I was almost 30.
I had a job that didn’t serve me, a relationship that I was in for the wrong reasons and I was living my life for everyone but me… in fact, I was saying yes to all the wrong things and no to the most important thing. I was saying no to me.
Cue the one thing that you must do before saying yes to adventure, magic, and other people. You must say YES to Self Love! What does this look like? This looks like saying yes to you, yes to self-care, yes to nights in and yes to saving. Yes to meditation and introspection. Yes to being alone. Yes to things that make your mind and ego uncomfortable. Yes to being ok with where you are right here and now. Yes to knowing that the decisions you have made thus far are no longer serving you. Yes to a life of less expectation, judgment and fear.
Ok, deep breathes. Your mind might be crafting a story that you aren’t worth all those things. You aren’t worth living a life you love… here’s what I need you to do. Reach one arm up high to the sky, bend your elbow and bring your hand down between your shoulders and pat yourself on the back. Take a deep breath. It’s weird how good that feels. Keep breathing. You’re doing amazing. Up until this point you have done your very best, and that is something to celebrate!
Now, I want you to notice how you feel at this moment. Maybe some fear, a little anxiety, but also some major excitement, right? You literally can do whatever you want, and you have complete control of your own destiny. All you have to do is acknowledge that your life is yours to live!
Before you can say yes to a life of excitement and adventure, you must say yes to Self Love and acceptance. It is imperative that you take the time to introspect and understand your why behind saying yes to whatever it is that you choose!
If you need support in learning how to say yes to living the life of your dreams join me for my free Five Days to Fearless challenge over on Facebook! All you have to do to get in on the challenge is to apply here! The challenge starts on January 7th, 2019 and it’s going to be life changing!
Paul Fishman is an online Self Love Coach based in Sunny San Diego. His life mission is to empower and inspire every living thing to love themselves just a little bit more. He does this through showing up on social media for his communities, leading monthly virtual self-love workshops and coaching clients one-on-one. Learn more at http://PaulFishman.Love