Things are scary. Until they’re not. Truth be told, most of us can get used to doing almost anything without feeling any fear or anxiety, but it can be hard to get there and to know what to do to gain confidence, boost your self-esteem, and grow as a person.
Well, doing things on your own might get you there. You see, when there’s no backup in the shape of friends or family, you – and you alone – are responsible for what happens. And once you’ve learned that you’ll be fine doing things by yourself, that’s when all the fear starts to fade!
Sounds good? Great, because here are some tips on activities that’ll make you aware of how much you can do without company – and how much fun you can have in the process!
Pro Tip: We’re all have different comfort zones, so choose something that’s just outside of yours, and work your way out!
Yes, have a night out. Just you. It can be awfully awkward at first, but soon you’ll learn how to talk to new people, and what to do when there’s nothing to actually do. Like, you know, talking to new people. You’ll be surprised as to how good you actually are at socializing and making new friends – who knows; the friendship might even last! If you’re not sure if you can handle it, choose a night when something else is happening, like a concert, or a game of football.
Or a week, or even longer. It’s up to you. Visit a nearby town, go to the big city, rent a cabin in the woods, or stay by the beach – as long as you go, it doesn’t matter where! This way you’ll not only get lots of new (or old) fun experiences, you’ll also be in charge of everything; getting there, where to spend the night, and what to do during the days – you’ll be nearly invincible!
Not only will you be doing something by yourself, gaining some serious bragging rights, you’ll also learn something new, or get better at what you’re already pretty damn good at! If that isn’t a win-win, then I sure don’t know what is. Whether you want to learn how to cook, knit, or build your own drone, you can get to know some like-minded people – or not, if you don’t feel like it. It’s okay because you went there anyway!
This is probably the scariest one on this list. Going away, on your own, visiting places and getting fantastic experiences, is not for the faint-hearted. Or, is it? Because do you think that everyone who does it hasn’t at one point or another felt like they’ve bitten off more than they can chew, wondering what the fuck they’re doing? I can guarantee you that they have – and if they can ignore the fear and worries, then so can you!
Imagine a nice, long dinner at a cozy café or a reputable restaurant, perhaps followed by a visit to the pictures or a wonderfully relaxing walk – sounds good? I bet it does! Now, try to picture yourself doing it all by your lonesome. Does it still sound as good? If not, then you definitely should give it a try! Eating alone is almost frowned upon, but it’s actually really nice – bring a book if you’re worried you’ll get bored, but try to stay off your phone!
Whether you choose a gym session or want to go swimming, or if climbing or fencing is your jazz, do it – alone! If you’re anything like me, doing things when there are people watching can feel a bit weird, but in reality, no one really cares. They don’t. And so what if they do? You’re doing this for yourself, for your own wellbeing – and if they have a problem with that, fuck ‘em.
Pro Tip: If you think that you’ll be struggling with getting out and about on your own, you can always join our Patreon and have a chat – we’ve all been there, and can help you!
In the least rude way possible. Go for a walk, a run, a drive, or just take the bus – then stop paying attention to where you are, and see where your idle sense of direction will take you! You might find a new village, a delightful spot by the river, or an awesome shop; perhaps you’ll even have to ask for directions. Who’s out there living life now, huh?!
This is another one of those win-wins. You’re helping people (or animals!) while learning something new, meeting all sorts of new faces, and getting far away from that comfort zone. You never held a bearded dragon before, or didn’t think yourself able to give good advice? If so, you’re in for a surprise. Just remember what Pooh said, about being braver than you believe!
Go to a dark bar in a dark alley, and sing your heart out in front of a big bunch of strangers. It doesn’t matter even a little if you can sing or not, as long as you’re enjoying it – and that goes for making an ass of yourself as well! If you believe that people are laughing with you rather than at you – and if you give them a chance to do that, then you literally can’t lose.
Doing things on your own is a case of faking it ‘til you become it; ignore that internal awkwardness, and soon it’ll be all but completely gone! Don’t let having no company stop you from living your best life. It’s too short for that. And, way too fun!