Kids have all the confidence in the world, but somewhere along the way that innocence and belief that you can do next to anything faces away and is replaced by doubt, and fear of failing or not being good enough.
It might take a little bit of work, but what if we tell you that there are ways to get your confidence back? Would you be interested? Great, because here are some effective confidence boosters and tips that will show you how you can reach your goals! Sounds good? Let’s get started on bringing back your kid level confidence!
Pro Tip: If you feel like you have done all you can after reading this, but still aren’t making as much progress as you’d like, there are other help you can get. CBT is a good one, and so is talking to a professional in general!
Before you can start building it, it can be useful to know what it is that you’re trying to achieve. It’s not being loud, always having an opinion, or feeling superior to others; confidence is feeling sure of yourself and your abilities, and knowing that you are capable. It’s an inner knowledge, nothing that has to be seen by others. It also comes before success, not the other way around. It’s super-helpful in basically every aspect of your life, in a nutshell.
Yay, you can do this! Below you’ll find some tips on how to think, and tricks on how to act to realize that, just like the Maybelline models, you are worth it. You are strong and capable. And no, I don’t know when I became Oprah.
Brains are super-powerful but also quite gullible. If you tell it that something is the case (like that you’re gonna backpack all over the world), it will soon believe you. And guess what: your brain is part of you, which means that you’ll believe it too! It’s a very neat trick that might seem silly at first, but give it a go!
… and push through it! You can do this by repeatedly put yourself in situations that you know will not work out for you (like ask for something ridiculous if you want to get better at rejection), or you can face your fears in ways that you can handle – and feel so much better about it! A great way to do this is setting small, even tiny, goals that you can’t mess up.
It’s so easily done, but it’s pointless. Of course you won’t be able to do exactly what someone else is capable of, and why would you? Do you even want to do those things that they’re doing, or do you just feel that you should? Try to make sure that everything you do is for you. Not them.
I mean, you can look however you want. We couldn’t care less. The only thing that matters is that you think that you look fantastic because it’ll soon make you feel fantastic as well! This can be applied to your home, too; if you like how it looks, you’ll want to spend time there – maybe you’ll even invite some people over! Looking good feels good. That’s all.
If you know what’s up, and have all the information and knowledge you’ll need to get the results that you want readily available in your back pocket, then you’ll feel so much more secure. It doesn’t matter the situation (it can be an exam, or how not to get tricked when renting a bike in Cambodia); knowledge is always powerful!
Yes, not until you make it but until you become it! Sit like a confident person, talk like a confident person, walk like a confident person – and think like a confident person (no, we’re not getting paid to use that phrase, promise)! It’s kind of like visualizing what you want, but with your body as well as your mind!
You know, when you feel like you’ve faked the way to where you are: I’m just lucky, anyone could have done it, I just happen to know the right people. No. You are where you are because of you and your hard work. You deserve it. Everyone else sure seems to think so, and you usually trust their opinions, right? So why not this time!
In the same spirit, take a gander at everything you’ve accomplished. You did that, and you can do it again – perhaps even better next time around! If you’ve succeeded, no matter how big or small the task was, enjoy it. Hell, you can even celebrate it! Life can be hard, so any opportunity to relax and have some fun should be cherished.
People aren’t humoring you or trying to keep you happy by lying to your face. When they say good things about you, they really mean them. Isn’t that what you do when complimenting someone? Why would everyone else be different? Try to focus on the positives if you can. You’ll always get negative feedback, but try not to let it steal the show from everything that you’ve done well!
You know, like location, location, location. No? Oh well. Achievements are, as we’ve seen, the best – but don’t forget to cut yourself some slack, and take a day off to relax every now and then so that you can get even more motivated to follow those dreams of yours!