So, you’ve decided that you want to change your life and become the best self that you or anyone else could possibly imagine. That will probably be one of the best decisions that you’ll ever make – but once you know what you want, how do you stick to it and commit to change that you’ll keep?
Well, it’s not going to be a walk in the park, but it’s probably going to be easier than you think! Because that’s how our brains sometimes work: they make things seem harder than they are which, quite frankly, is rather discouraging and definitely not in your best interest. If you, on the other hand, use all that brainpower to your advantage – beautiful things can happen – and we know some good ways to do it!
Pro Tip: Rome – or anything else for that matter – wasn’t built in a day, so be patient, and let the change take its time! It’s worth the wait, and who knows – you might enjoy the journey!
You know what you want to achieve, at least kind of, and that’s great, but now you need to focus on the why. Let’s say your goal is to go traveling, and your reason for that is to finally check things you’ve always wanted to try and see off your bucket list. Perfect. Keep that in mind, and try to be as detailed and specific as you can about why you’ve chosen those places; perhaps you can even imagine being there and use that as a carrot to get things done!
You need to save up some money for your first plane ticket, right, and some days it’s easy: your legs feel so very light when skipping to your fourth part-time job of the day, and your ramen noodles are delicious, and it doesn’t bother you to have your sixth cup of black coffee, no extras. Fantastic. Other days, though, you’ll need a little more persistence. That’s perfectly normal and you just need to remind yourself of your goal and stay strong.
Or let someone else do it. Do whatever you feel like as long as it gives you motivation and reminds you precisely why you want to try to catch a glimpse, or more, of orcas off the coast of Iceland or stand beneath the Las Vegas Eiffel Tower (are you sure you wouldn’t prefer the one in Paris?) with a big smile on your face. Focus on that smile. Use that smile, let it be one of the reasons that you power through that last shift of the day. It’ll be so, so worth it!
In the same spirit, use the excitement and anticipation of your future adventures to make sure that you don’t spend all your mental and physical energy on things that don’t matter that much. Does your car need new parts? Well, unless you’re planning on bringing it on your quest to go on at least one train on each continent – including Australia, perhaps you don’t have to worry about fixing it right now? If you don’t pay any attention to small setbacks, it’ll be like they never happened!
It might be a scary and rather heavy realization, but only you can make this happen. No one else is gonna buy you that first train card or write your lists of what to pack. It might feel like a lot of, maybe even too much, responsibility but isn’t it also rather liberating? It’s up to you; you can actually make this happen! It might be a long, hard journey, but if you really do commit and keep trying you’ll get there in the end. Fingers crossed the orcas got the memo.
If you simply can’t find the courage and motivation and worry that you won’t do it on your own, then find something outside yourself that will help you with that. Perhaps there’s a Save the Orcas organization out there that never says so to new members or a Facebook group dedicated to how the Eiffel Tower in Nevada is superior to the French counterpart that you can join, or maybe you decide to go with a friend. Wanting some exterior motivation is completely fine, and doesn’t mean that you’re failing in any way!
Speaking of which, try to not even think about failure. Just like with the small things, keep all that away from your focus. It can be difficult, but you might as well try, right? If you can’t, then try to reason with yourself. It doesn’t matter if you won’t save enough money to go this autumn – the orcas prefer to socialize in the early months anyway! Don’t get discouraged by things that might go wrong, because they tend to work themselves out. Have faith in yourself; you can do it!
Pro Tip: Here is a little quote I like to write down when I’m feeling afraid of failure. “Fear kills more dreams than failure ever will”.
You might wonder how quitting those disgusting but oh-so-cool-looking cigarettes or going to the gym four times a week will help you in your quest to make the most of life. Not directly. But indirectly, they’ll show you how easy it can be to stay on target and will make all those hard or tedious habits a lot easier. Just like anything, practice makes perfect, and one good habit leads to another, and another, and you guessed it… another!
Pro Tip: We’ve got some great content on creating good habits, that stick!
Unless you’re very fortunate and accidentally stumble into someone who happens to have a summer house in Iceland and a condo in Las Vegas that they’re looking to give away for free, you’re going to need hard work to see your dreams become a reality. And that is a lot easier if you’re committed. So try to stay on track, and let us know if you need any help to get back on it, should you struggle!