Shit will happen. That’s just how life works. You’ll get sad, lose your motivation or abilities, and feel like there’s no way back to living that happy, fun life full of adventures that you’ve come to love. It might seem impossible, but you don’t have to let that stop you. You really don’t.
You’ll be able to get back on that horse (or maybe another one!), back on track, and start living your life again – if you think that you can. Convincing yourself that’s possible is tricky, but that’s where we come in! You see, we’ve all been there. And now we’re back. And here are some of our best tips on what to do when it’s all doom and gloom!
Pro Tip: You’re strong, but not stronger alone. Talk to people, listen to what they say, let them help you if they can – you’d do the same for them, right?
Why are you feeling like this, what happened? Sometimes you can change that why, but other times it’s out of your control, such as when a close friend or family member dies, or you end up with broken bones or a mental block, or get fired. It sucks, but you can sort it out. Of course you can.
Hasn’t it always before, even when you’ve thought that your life is over? It has, or you wouldn’t be reading this, would you! But maybe you’ve never had to deal with anything like this before, and it seems so big, so overwhelming, that surely it’s not gonna get better this time? Wrong. It will. It always does. Every single time.
That said, it might take time. Or rather, it will definitely take some time. It’s essential to realize this; that even if you don’t notice any progress, it’s there. You won’t get back on track straight away. It might take weeks, months, or even years, and it will go up and down. You’ll feel better, then worse again. That’s okay. Because, day by day, you’re getting there.
It might be hard to remember this when you’re at your worst, but try to tell it to yourself even if it doesn’t help right now. Eventually, it will. And it’ll be easier to remember, each time. In the same spirit, don’t be afraid to feel what you feel. Let it hurt. It will pass. You will heal.
You didn’t think we were just gonna ask you to wait idly, did you? Good, because that’s just not our style. There are a whole bunch of things you can do straight away to speed up the healing process. Have a look!
Now, this depends on why you fell off track in the first place, but if there are things that you can’t do anymore – do something else! Can’t run? Swim. Can’t write that piece for work? Write something else, then get back to it. If someone has entered permanent retirement, this can be harder, but many of us have stronger relationships with other friends and family after having lost a loved one.
Dive head first into a new hobby, take up an old one, go on trips, surround yourself with people, bury yourself in work. Anything that makes you forget about all the bad for a bit will do – just remember that this is not a cure, just a way to take a break from all the feelings! Try changing the scenery as well. It’ll give you lots of new impressions to focus on.
Make a little time table to help you get back on track. Whether your small, initial goal is to start looking for a new job, to write when you’re tired – or even to get out of your house, schedule it. Once a week, three hours every day, anything will do – and, it doesn’t matter if you miss one, because you can just try again next time!
The brain might not be our largest organ (that’s the skin, don’t be silly), but it remains unchallenged when it comes to ability. It’s pretty awesome, to say the least. Which is why it’s very beneficial to focus on it in most situations, and speaking of that:
You’re out of a job, but you still have your experience and skills, right? And even though you broke your arm while punching a shark, does that mean you can’t enjoy things anymore? Of course not. This isn’t necessarily about being grateful for what you have (which is good too), but not to waste time thinking about what you’re lacking.
Bad thoughts and emotions will pop up. And sometimes you should let them. But when it becomes a bit too much, try to stop it when you sense it coming. You won’t be able to block the negativity each time, but when you do you’ll really be closing in on that right track!
Some seemingly unwanted events are really a blessing in disguise. Isn’t that a nice little thought! Now that you don’t have a job, there’s (finally!) time to do that thing you’ve always wanted to try, and if you’re gonna miss spin class for a couple of months, spend that time catching up with your social life instead! You’ll find a silver lining if you look hard enough.
Perhaps there’s something you can do to prevent this from happening again, and maybe there’s not. Either way, try to learn from your experience; make a plan for how to deal with it next time, remember what you did to feel better, know that it’s not the end of the world, after all. You’ll be okay.
Life can indeed be a bit of a bitch, and failure is inevitable – but if you learn how to, so is getting back on track again! The road to living life like you fucking mean it can seem long and winding, which is why we’re here to help you, step by step.