Worrying about the opinions of others is a waste of time, will get in the way of your dreams and happiness, and is verging on masochism. But you already know that. The tricky part is to stop; to not care what others think so that you can be true to yourself and get rid of those dark clouds of worry, once and for all.
How on earth would that work, you might think, I’m not good enough to ever be able to do that. Well, that’s bullshit. You are good enough and do not have to let other people hold you back. And it’s not magic, either: it’s just a couple of questions to reflect over and things to tell yourself (and others!). Sounds good? Yay, let’s get to it!
Pro Tip: You can still care about what some people think, of course; people who are supportive and keep your head straight and bring you positivity, those are the keepers!
Yeah, why does it? Why would it matter to you if Steve from high school doesn’t think that writing is a real job, or if Sheela from down the street can’t imagine why you wouldn’t spend your vacations in the mountains each year? In all honesty, it probably doesn’t matter that much.
Unless your answer is your own, chances are you’re wrong. Or rather: you shouldn’t be too bothered about gaining approval from someone who might never give it to you anyway, and whose opinion most likely doesn’t matter. It can be hard to stop, but it’s totally, and completely worth it.
… know that everyone likes you while living a life that’s your truth, or do something that you love and makes you happy and having to endure snarky comments and weird looks? I don’t know about you, but for me, that’s a no-brainer. Life is too short to spend it pleasing others.
Hurt people hurt, bullied people bully, and those who are too scared to do it themselves try to convince anyone brave enough that it’s not a good idea. If can swap caring about what’s being said with pitying the ones who say it, then you’ve won a battle right there.
One of the few universal truths (another one is that peanut butter goes with everything) is that you’re never alone in how you feel. And knowing that can help, while seeing someone else doing that thing that scares you might give you the courage and motivation to do it too. You could be that inspiration for someone if you start yourself!
No one in this world can please everyone. I mean, if Santa can’t, then who could?! If you don’t hurt anyone or intentionally make others feel bad (a bit offended is okay) and do it for yourself, people have no reason to dislike you, and those who do are most likely not worth the time anyway.
In the same spirit, it’s also a waste of time to worry about the opinions of strangers who probably don’t think twice about what you’re up to. People also have a very short memory and will forget about what you did before you can say adventure bear, anyway.
The only one that matters, anyway. Do you like what you’re doing? Fantastic. Do you think you did something wrong? Then you most likely didn’t! Be true to yourself, keep your conscience clear, and remember that at the end of the day, the only one you have to answer to, is you. Don’t let you down!
What they really mean is get a career in a field that they think is secure and appropriate. Stay in line; play it safe. Even if they have your best interest in mind, this is an opinion that is based on the view that work is the top one priority. It’s not. Living is. If you don’t feel alive working in that bank, then don’t! Live your truth.
You purchase a house and start a family all you want – if that is what you want. We’re not here to say you shouldn’t. But, if it’s not for you, you can rent, couch surf, or live on a raft in the Amazon rainforest. This is all about you and your happiness.
And why, if I may ask, is that? Why does appearance hit a nerve with so many people? Unless you’re wearing socks with crocs, you can look however you want, because that’s your business. If you wish to get permanent art on your skin, or finally do that perm you’ve always wanted, that’s up to you, and no one else!
It can be scary, yes. So what? Are you not supposed to do anything that might require you stepping out of that old, dusty comfort zone? That sounds quite tedious and not very inspiring at all. Traveling doesn’t have to equal danger, either: there are so, so many destinations to visit and ways to travel, just choose one that appeals to you! Besides, the best things in life are on the other side of fear!
Whether technically true or not (let’s face it, you probably won’t make the Olympic javelin team, but you can still have a blast trying), don’t let anyone else tell you that you’re not good enough for something (most of us do that to ourselves just fine anyway). They don’t measure success the same as you do, so why listen to them?
Life is the biggest, most exciting adventure you’ll ever embark on, so it would be ludicrous to let others hold you back. Now, it might still be tricky to actually do all this – that’s why we’re always available for some pep talk or some support!